Are you ready for that first day of school? Do they want to go school and it’s you that’s just not quite ready to let them?
Whether it’s your child’s first day at preschool or nursery, reception or junior, college or even university it is very easy as a mother (or father) to worry about them.
As a mother, you’ve carried around a bump for 9 months that finally when your new little munchkin made an appearance in the world all you wanted to do was protect it and look after it. (Even with the crying, night feeding and nappy changing.) You’ve taught them to eat, drink, walk, talk and so much more that you feel they are so dependant on you that it’s hard to let them go.
Time for them to be more independent
There is many time in your child’s life when you are going to have to just let them make their own decisions and be an independent person in their own lives that you are just a small part of. Just at the age of 3 or 4, it’s hard to imagine them as a teenager or twenty something moving out and getting married. You want to protect them and it can be hard to let them go, but you just need to start somewhere.
They need to gain experience of social skills by interacting with their own peers, learn to read and write. It is good for them to discover all this on their own (not that they are but as a mum or dad I’m sure that’s what you are thinking). They need to learn to cope with life without you. Although routine is good but then so are the subtle changes such as a sandwich cut in into triangles not squares or drinking from a different colour cup. We know this isn’t the end of the world (and we all laugh about it when we see our children have a melt down over it) – though it might feel like it is to them at the time.
Yes, you could home school but that’s a different topic altogether.
Take a moment for yourself
Not only is school an opportunity for them to learn what life is all about with out you but you suddenly have time to be yourself again. You are not just mum, mummy or the taxi service – you are a person who has the opportunity to be yourself.
You could rediscover who you are again, maybe you will take the time to get fit again, start your own business from home, you just might be grateful to read a book or even find the bottom of the laundry basket. It’s not selfish to take time for you. You have spent the last 3 to 5 year looking after them now take the opportunity to look after yourself. Besides they are still going to need you when the school bell rings at the end of the day.
Tips for the First Day of School
- Prepare lunch boxes, PE kits and any bags the night before
- Label school uniform as many times as possible and have it ready to put on in the morning
- Let them take the lead when walking to school and allow time to go at their pace
- Make it exciting – even if you are a nervous for them
- Don’t look back if there are tears (yours or theirs) they will soon stop crying once they have settled in and made a few new friends. Plus the teachers will soon let you know if there are any problems
What other tips do you have comment below!